Single man goes to HR over flirty coworker who feels "deceived" after finding out that he is not married despite wearing a ring on his left finger: "She seems to be one of the types who likes to go after married men"

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    AITAH for wearing a ring on my left ring finger and reporting a coworker for confronting me about it?

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    I am a guy. Before I started at my current job, I bought a ring that I really liked. I started wearing it on my left ring finger simply because I thought it looked nice. For the first several months at my
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    current job, no one said anything about it. One coworker was trying to get personal with me over these months. I always kept my responses strictly professional and avoided any personal discussions.
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    She said she found out I wasn't married or engaged and felt deceived by my ring. I felt uncomfortable. I didn't answer her questions and simply said
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    nothing. I reported her to HR because the interaction felt very inappropriate. She was disciplined and given a warning.
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    My coworkers are saying that I took things too far and I don't understand. I just want to work and be quiet. She's taller and stronger than me and this can escalate into buying and a so reporting it early is a good thing, from my experience.
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    SafeWord9999 Why would your marital status affect her working life?
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    YankeeGirl53 Because she was trying to get an office fling going from the sounds of it. Why else would she be stalkerish about finding out if he was married instead of just asking him.
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    BlueWolf107 She seems to be one of the types who likes to go after married men. It's not a totally unknown phenomenon.
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    Martin Aurelius It's so weird to experience too. It's like there's a subset of women who only want a man if some other woman has already decided he's worth having. I'm not a conventionally attractive dude,
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    and I consider myself extremely fortunate for having met and married my wife after being ignored completely by women growing up; but within weeks of getting married I had 10x as many women taking interest in me as in the decade before.
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    Puzzleheaded-Brush58 i think the psychology behind it is along the lines of "someone's decided he's up to their standards, so he must be great!" alongside the whole dating-is-a-competition pick-me stuff.
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    honestly i've met people who have explicitly stated that they like going after guys who are taken because the chase is more "fun" too. people are weird.
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    Ok_Explorer_5994 NTAH ..Yeah I think you did the right thing, it's none of her business whether you are married or not and for her to feel deceived by you wearing a ring is her
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    own problem not yours. Maybe the warning will teach her to mind her business next time and don't assume something that really doesn't concern her
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    jubangyeonghon I would have responded to her saying she "felt deceived" with;
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    "Well maybe I use it as a deterrent to avoid unwanted, weird and creepy advances by women like you."
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    CareerSideaTracked Wearing a ring because you like it is totally normal. Getting mad at someone for that? Not so much. She made it weird all by herself.
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    Historical_Heron 4801 What a weird response for her to take it so personally that you were lying to her about anything. That's definitely a her problem. She made assumptions and was then somehow offended that
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    you didn't fit into them. The fact that she became oddly aggressive and personal about it makes you NTA. If it has been inappropriate for you to report it, she wouldn't have been disciplined.
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    I wore a ring on my left ring finger for years after I turned 16. My grandmother gave me it, I lived it, and that was the finger it fit best. I'm now married and currently have no rings because I put on some weight and none of them fit. It's no big thing.
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    LittleWhiteGirl People wear rings on that finger for so many reasons: they lost their spouse, it was their parent's or grandparent's, it just happened to fit that one, they're divorced but not ready to take the ring off, and so on.

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